I know what I look like:
|With Bruce, January 2012|
|Vera Brown--born April 9, 1928|
|Jamie Lee Curtis--born November 22, 1958|
|Yours Truly--born May 21, 1952|
We're not talking beauty contests here; no botox, no cosmetic surgery, no hair coloring. I like having a low maintenance lifestyle. I liked having longer hair so I could pull it up into a ponytail; the short hair is basically wash and go. My objective is to feel okay and look okay. I don't mind looking like the ordinary, 60-year old woman that I am.
And I might not have started thinking about this if I hadn't spent my birthday money to buy a small television for my office so that I could tune into the local stations and get the "breaking news" reports that I've been missing when I'm focused on a project. Last Wednesday, I had the television tuned to ABC, which meant listening to The View and guest Joan Rivers:
|Joan Rivers--born June 8, 1933|
Okay, I know that Joan's youthful looks are the result of spending big bucks on cosmetic surgery. I know that she looks younger than her daughter, Melissa (anyway, that's my opinion). I know that how she looks is not real. It's artificially-produced "twenty-something" beauty. The thing is, that's mostly what we see on television and in the movies.
As a teenager, I adored Audrey Hepburn. As an adult, I admired how she followed her own path, and aged naturally.
|Audrey--young movie star|
|Audrey--in later years|
She was always gorgeous!
There are a few celebrities that have kept their silver-grey hair. Like Paula Deen:
|Paula Deen--born January 19, 1947|
I like Goldie Hawn. But I don't like her new lips:
What is the vision of "beauty" that these women hope to achieve? Why does Joan Rivers feel the need to look younger than her daughter?
|Kathy Bates--born June 28, 1948|
I think we should embrace our ages, celebrate who we are and how we are. I don't think we should chase an artificial vision of "beauty" or try to look 29 from age 16 on into our 60's and beyond. But I will also admit that every time I see a "woman of a certain age" who doesn't look her age, I compare myself to her. Maybe it's something that's hard-wired into our species: we can't help it, we evaluate ourselves and make comparisons. We would still do that, even if celebrities like Joan Rivers did not chase after youthful looks; but they would actually look their ages.
If this sounds like a rant from a 60-year-old woman of low self-esteem, it isn't meant to be. It's just my rambling and pondering as I look in the mirror and find this "new" old face that's mine.